We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are – Anais Nin
Some, possibly most people do not want to know whether they have high(er) risk driving behaviours, because then they will need to change. There are some who know that they do not have high(er) risk driving behaviours and that they are low risk drivers; some of them are right. Many people are fearful of what they might learn about themselves if they complete the driver profiler. And there are some who can’t be bothered to change because it’s too hard or they can’t see the benefits. There are a few who just don’t care and others have reasons known only to them. Almost all of them do not know their own driving story.
Convincing people who believe any of the above to take a Driver Assess driver behaviour profiler can be difficult. One of the reasons for this is trying to see their world through our own lens: this is not possible (see blog: Our driving stories: Reality versus make believe). To understand their story we need to apply empathy and perspective, move to the Viewing Point and:
- Believe their stories as they tell them (I am not saying be gullible);
- Don’t run their stories through your lens;
- Know that their story is as sincere, truthful and honest to them as yours is to you;
- Do not dismiss peoples stories or perspectives;
- Seek to understand by asking open questions and building rapport.
One of the most powerful means of connecting with people you believe will benefit from becoming aware of and changing their high(er) risk driving behaviours, is to share your driving story with them, warts and all!
Tell them why you decided to do the Driver Assess driver behaviour profiler:
- What you found out about your sub-conscious driving patterns;
- What you did to begin to pay attention to your thoughts, emotions, feelings and actions;
- Share how difficult it was for you not to react to your trigger events and what you needed to do to ‘get your cool back’ when you lost it?
- Tell them how and why driving has become less stressful for you and your passengers
- Share with them the difference your driving made in your relationship with your spouse or partner.
Your story is one of the most powerful ways of enabling others to:
- Become aware of their high(er) risk driving behaviours;
- Pay attention to their identified high(er) risk behaviours, feelings, emotions and the trigger events;
- Decide as to what they want to change them to;
- Have the courage to practice their new behaviours and patterns every time they drive.
Share your story; share your power to change. Emotions drive people, people drive cars.
Reference and credit:
Woman and truck, Averie Woodard on www.unsplash.com
Old truck, Pablo Garcia Saldana on www.unsplash.com